She had grown completely frustrated with her life.
Once again, for probably the fifth time in the last month, she brought up her desire for physical intimacy and need for a sex life to her husband.
"I love you, but you barely ever even want to touch me. How do you think that makes me feel?" She said
He looked at her sadly, but with love in his eyes, "I'm sorry, hon. I just never really feel it anymore."
An inadequate answer in an impossible situation, she pressed him more, "So what am I supposed to do?"
"I don't know." He flatly responded before walking out of the house to get some air, away from the tension of his own home.
She went back to their room and cried into the comfort of her sheets, griping them as if she could squeeze her frustration away.
A week later, she found herself crying in a bed unfamiliar in the revelation that her love for her husband conflicted with her need for physical intimacy as her long time friend lay naked and asleep beside her. She grabbed her clothes and headed home at 3 in the morning to safe the reality of her situation - it was time to go.
Is her situation entirely evil and sinister? Is this woman the scum of the Earth? A dirty slut with no regard for another's feelings?
No.
While cheating is NEVER (And I do mean, NEVER) okay, it is at many times understandable. In this situation, she actually was cheating out of love for her husband. She didn't want to leave him, because she loved him, but his desire for her, and their intimacy as a couple, was extremely diminished.
And it wasn't a lack of effort on her part to fix it.
Before you people try to use logic and understanding to find who is "at fault" remember that cheating is an issue of love, which is NOT rational and NOT logical. Stop trying to turn love into something logical. This is not a black and white issue.
It is completely emotional.
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Cheating cannot be justified... however, it can be understood. Interesting post.
Been there in the opposite roles. It *is* emotional.
@SladeTheGreyFox - What's most interesting is there are a myriad of different situations that you could end up on either side of without there being one right or wrong position.
Thanks for commenting.
@QuantumStorm - Thanks for your comment.
Here's my policy: If you're in an unhappy relationship, don't cheat; end your relationship and start a new one. It's best all around.
@RaVnR - Yep
I appreciate this post. I don't exactly know how to respond to it, but I do appreciate it.
While she is not truly justified in cheating. He does make a mistake in not making amends for her physical needs. The physical aspects of a relationship should be a mutual decision.
I could talk for hours about this, but I'll keep it short. In the situation you presented, both the husband and the wife need to 'man up' and have a difficult conversation. In my opinion, her running off and fucking someone else is taking the 'easy way' out. Lying so as not to hurt someone only hurts 1000x worse in the end.
FF, it makes me a little sad to hear you say all this, tbh. :(
I like this post. It sets out some hard truths.